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Title: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on May 07, 2012 01:31 am
What can we do to revive a stagnate relationship?
i often ask myself this question. i wonder if some of
u have dealt with this issue. Even more so i wonder
if some of u have found answers. Have u just given
up and moved on?

Jitendra


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: guest88 on May 07, 2012 06:44 am
i dont have the answers. instead i share opinion in hopes we figure things out together. but. what makes it stagnant and why is it upsetting you ? is it because you expect more out of the relationship ? you want something that's not being acknowledged ? or . . . ? in my recent past i deleted many contacts from my phone. i miss some of my very good friends because of it. in the end we should be grateful for all we share(whether that is with new or old friends, strangers even). if nothing is happening why dwell on it ? if you are their friend, will you still be there when they wish to come to you ? sometimes it's upsetting because perhaps the type of friendship we thought we shared is misunderstood. i think it's best to keep yourself moving, be true to yourself. don't be afraid to communicate the aspects of a relatioship you miss sharing. if some of these friends were once attracted and are now repelled, then yes move on. but that doesn't mean you are no longer friends. it means you don't need this to hold you down.


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: guest88 on May 07, 2012 06:53 am
i guess my answer is first to reflect on your relationship and maybe try understanding your emotions. maybe you can write out what it is you feel is missing or why you think things are the way they are. you can try communicating with your friend. if things dont seem like they're going anywhere, well maybe they don't need to be. i'd have to wonder at this point if i'm being to involved in someone elses life or if i'm not letting things flow naturally. but i'd also contemplate on establishing communication with the other if it really bothers you. well thats from my limited experience/understanding. good luck with everything ! you can also try remembering why you were such good friends to begin with.


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: yoshi on May 07, 2012 03:03 pm
being spontaneous.  never give up the 'inner child'.  


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on May 07, 2012 09:12 pm
being spontaneous.  never give up the 'inner child'.  
 

Hey Cheif Little Word

If i am spontaneous how will one such as yourself take it? As an example: Can one activate their heart in motion when it is blocked or stopped ? ! The inner child wants to know.  :-)


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Mar 30, 2016 10:39 am

We may look at ourselves and realize we could have handled things better. i believe all of us recognize that at a certain level but it is very difficult to be spontaneous when we have been shut down and cut out. Spontaneity is something that arises out of an openness to recognize that doors that have been shut can be opened again and that sometimes it is just difficult to keep going on in the same direction when circumstances have changed so dramatically. People change relationships by the direction they choose to take. It is O.K. There is still room for spontaneity if we are receptive to lifes changes.


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 11:38 am

We may look at ourselves and realize we could have handled things better.

.no gniog gniht elttil yreve rof emalb ro tiderc sekat hcihw esnes oge siht evlossid yrt si od yllaer nac ew lla.....oS .serawanu meht tceffa yam hcihw snosaer etinifed rof yaw niatrec a seog eno taht em ot smees ti ereht neeb evah yam sevitanretla fo rebmun yna elihW .feileb ym si tahT .evah dluow ew ev'dluoc ylurt ew fI


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Mar 30, 2016 02:17 pm

We may look at ourselves and realize we could have handled things better.

.no gniog gniht elttil yreve rof emalb ro tiderc sekat hcihw esnes oge siht evlossid yrt si od yllaer nac ew lla.....oS .serawanu meht tceffa yam hcihw snosaer etinifed rof yaw niatrec a seog eno taht em ot smees ti ereht neeb evah yam sevitanretla fo rebmun yna elihW .feileb ym si tahT .evah dluow ew ev'dluoc ylurt ew fI

i smell something strange in the air. i think their maybe something in me snahzzin. i believe i would bloze it out to you. But realize it is not such friendly thing to do. So i swallow it down me esophagus and let it pass quickly thru the stomach and out the elimination canal.   (:)) (:P)
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Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 02:22 pm
i can't decode yours


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Mar 30, 2016 02:25 pm
i can't decode yours

i think we may be in the same boat floating down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily; life is but a dream!



Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 02:28 pm
what do you mean?


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Mar 30, 2016 02:31 pm
what do you mean?

i was just realizing how we can't always tell how people will react to our words in advance so sometimes it is difficult to be spontaneous when that spontaneity can be interpreted as something threatening in the minds of others. If we do not choose our words carefully they can be filtered in the minds of others into something quite terrifying when they were in fact innocuous.


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 02:38 pm
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Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 02:39 pm
i couldn't agree more


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Mar 30, 2016 03:19 pm
being spontaneous.  never give up the 'inner child'.  

b i was responding to this idea by yoshi/bluenova and earlier responses made by dragonpie (eric). Hope this clears things up a bit!

what do you mean?


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 03:22 pm
Yes, I am butting in on a old conversation it seems. Carry on.

  :)


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Mar 30, 2016 03:51 pm
Yes, I am butting in on a old conversation it seems. Carry on.

  :)

It is quite fine dear friend. You just got the topic going a bit. Some of our good friends have disappeared over the years. Fortunately their are others coming in and back... like for instance Casey. It made me tremendously happy to see you return as well. Just trying to learn from some of the mistakes we/i made in the past with some wonderful people that have been here. But you know it might be that is just the nature of things. i think it is always good though-introspection-to be able to admit that people-ourselves included- do make mistakes and sometimes cause separations that were unnecessary. There may not be so much we can do about it accept pray for them and be thankful such people came in our lives.


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 04:06 pm
But you know it might be that is just the nature of things.

 8)


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 04:21 pm
I believe nobody makes mistakes


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Mar 30, 2016 04:33 pm
I believe nobody makes mistakes

O.K. i think that needs some explaining... it could be just your choice of words. i really believe that i would have handled things much differently with people had i known their reactions in advance. Since i have not been able to anticipate what they are all about i have had to revise a lot of how i respond to others. It is not all about me and my mistakes. It is also about others and how they perceive me and my responses. i have learned much about people and life through such encounters and probably will continue to.


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: b on Mar 30, 2016 04:49 pm
What more proof could there be that we aren't in control than the fact that we regret things?  :'(

There are plenty of things I think I might do differently but the perfection is already going on.

When we see perfection everywehre we see God

 :'(


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Mar 30, 2016 05:39 pm
What more proof could there be that we aren't in control than the fact that we regret things?  :'(

There are plenty of things I think I might do differently but the perfection is already going on.

When we see perfection everywehre we see God

 :'(

i don't know that regret is the rite word for me. But lack of control? Yes! We r not in control and we cannot control these things and the people who come into our lives... only ourselves. Good point Brock! What i have noticed is that some people just get angry, close down, cut out or shut out relationships; instead of moving forward and trying to communicate, come to an understanding and perhaps compromise. If nothing else relationships that are stagnate can come to a quandary that just needs time to assimilate and find common ground and understanding at a later date. i have seen this happen many times in my life. But why create more karma by being cruel, cold, angry and abusive? This only creates more karma for the perpetrator.

This is what we see in international affairs; reaching out finding solutions. If it was not so we would be at constant war with everyone. If we do not start it on a personal level how can we expect it on a national or international level? That is what this thread is all about!

Yes; seeing that perfection really helps us come to terms with relationships. Seeing it like God would... not our small selves that is something to pray and strive for!

om namah shivaya


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Dr. Suess on Jul 23, 2016 07:12 am
Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.


Title: Re: Stagnate Relationships
Post by: Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us? on Sep 14, 2023 01:11 pm
I see that sometimes we play the same tapes over and over in relationships. We are unable to break out of certain patterns that no longer serve a useful purpose. How do we address such issues?