thank you brother!
It is only after observing my own spiritual sabotaging and challenges that I am able to see this with so much clarity in others. We are very good about keeping are old habits continuing but not so good at creating new ones that benefit us. I am sure that many Masters who have tried to help us have made this observation; you can lead a donkey to water but you cannot make them drink. Which is to say; You can give someone an advantage or provide them with an opportunity, but you can't force them to do something if they don't want.
Furthermore we often outsmart ourselves: Outsmart oneself definition: to have one's efforts at cunning or cleverness result in one's own disadvantage