Internet Friendships/Relationships

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

when a soul is reunited with god....'it' becomes deeply 'rooted in god' again......

god like qualities come forth...the soul learns the Love of god,,,and is then able to share this Love with others.....

the Love of god...contains no jealously....possessiveness.....

it is difficult to Love another while soul consciousness is still in illusion/maya.....

for when in maya and loving another,,,,jealously and possessivness can happen.....those, are the sin....those are the 'things' that can keep soul from god.....

sex itself is not a sin....it is the jealously and possessiveness that is the sin....

until a soul is deeply rooted in god...it has the potential to fall prey to those sins.

((Love&Hugs&OM)))
yoshi

Anne your theme is similar in your posts from the past. i certainly have 'things' to work on in life. Jealousy and possessiveness have never seemed to haunt me. Have they been something that u have been working on? i have always felt that if something wasn't meant to b then why b possessive or jealous? Y not b happy for someone's happiness if they r indeed happy? We strive to b kind to others and hope for their highest welfare. If we r jealous and possessive we leave ourselves closed off from love from somewhere and someone else.

P/S Flying Squirrel; i do not think any of us r pretending to give SRF's opinions.

Jitendra

_/\_ my post was not directed to anyone in particular...this is something that i have realized is all

(((Love&Hugs&OM))
yoshi

Neither of us r directing our opinions at anyone in particular. When we communicate we establish rapport with each other. In this way we deepen friendship. Thanks. This shows love in action. We accept each others imperfections. Soul consciousness happens between those who love God and love their neighbor as themselves. i am just saying that jealousy and possessiveness r not as prevalent among those who have soul consciousness. What we experience in our life may hold true for the past and the people in our past. But our present circumstances can not b measured with past standards. Especially if people in our present circumstances do not fit the criteria of the past. We change. We grow and so do our encounters with others. They become more evolved. When this happens we r surrounded by new lessons and circumstances that do not fit the lessons and experiences of past relationships but rather a growing understanding that everything coexists as part of our consciousness. This is assuming we r learning along the way. Recognizing this is leaving our self open to life and the joy of fresh air in all life's new encounters.

There r certain boundaries that exist between each other. The internet serves us well in getting to know one another but also can hide vulnerabilities and becomes a shield against closeness when this happens. This too is not directed in particular. Yet it is something that i have seen as a re-occuring phenomena that exists in getting to know someone. We see boundaries for personal interchange when we actually have a chance to meet as human beings and we continue to keep relationships at the internet level. Perhaps some people use the internet as a way to inspire and help. Others use it as a way to have pseudo relationships that never mature but reflect the immaturity of those involved.

In Divine Love & Friendship

Jitendra

[flying squirrel]

Perhaps some people use the internet as a way to inspire and help. Others use it as a way to have pseudo relationships that never mature but reflect the immaturity of those involved.


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stop and think a minute !

not all internet relationships are meant to mature into full time, real friendships

not even most of them , at best a few 

does not mean that those involved are immature  

sounds to me
this comes from a disappointment from your side of the fence

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

Perhaps some people use the internet as a way to inspire and help. Others use it as a way to have pseudo relationships that never mature but reflect the immaturity of those involved.


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stop and think a minute !

not all internet relationships are meant to mature into full time, real friendships

not even most of them , at best a few 

does not mean that those involved are immature  

sounds to me
this comes from a disappointment from your side of the fence

i agree with u. We make choices and live with the outcomes. We cannot expect that they would become mature.  We may feel disappointment that they may not and we can also adjust to what is and what has become. Disappointment is human. We have all been disappointed. We move on. Hope breeds eternal. Despair has no place in true joy. We can use the internet to inspire and help others...

Jitendra

[flying squirrel]

We cannot expect that they would become mature.  We may feel disappointment that they may not and we can also adjust to what is and what has become.

squirrel is confused with terminology of " mature " in context of this internet communication ?

could it be, instead of " their immaturity " it is ....

more that they are not living up to how you expect they should be responding / or want them to respond ?

maybe they just aren't interested ?
blow to the ego at times ! 
when things don' t go as we like

different people ~ different expectations ? 

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

i think we always have to let go of all our expectations. Life never turns out how we think it will. U r not the only one who is trying to understand! All of your views r possible Squirrel. Each situation with others can pose different challenges and opportunities. The ones u have mentioned r possibilities that most of us have experienced at one time or another in our lives.

Jitendra

[flying squirrel]

always nice not to be the only one, out on a branch !    

[yoshi]

[flying squirrel]

hey yoshi ! 

check out da ears, must have been rabbits in a past life !!    

 

[yoshi]

hey yoshi ! 

check out da ears, must have been rabbits in a past life !!    

 

^^^   LOL  !!!      ^^^


gotta giggle outta this fellow below...

[flying squirrel]

gotta giggle outta this fellow below...

hey ! He looks familiar ! 

reminds me of a local guru 
we hung out on da branch of tree of knowledge

" tcht tcht tcht "  which translates from squisdom  to " om om om "   
 

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

always nice not to be the only one, out on a branch !    

Sometimes we get so far out on a limb that we have to take a flying leap before we fall! Wow the branches get thin sometimes and u loose balance! Hope i find some fresh acorns on another tree to share with my companions. Need to b a better squirrel so i notice all the love around me. i'll share when i do! Watch those thin branches they get u every time.

[flying squirrel]

wheeeeeeeeeeee !   

who needs astral travel ? HA HA !

sharing the love brother 

allergic to acorns

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

wheeeeeeeeeeee !   

who needs astral travel ? HA HA !

sharing the love brother 

allergic to acorns

Don't worry; there r enough nuts around here to satisfy us all!

[flying squirrel]

Don't worry; there r enough nuts around here to satisfy us all!

 

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

The interesting thing about internet friends and relationships is that they have the element of suspense and there is much that is left to your imagination. The challenging part can be when you finally meet the person and add the physical dimension to the relationship. It seems to me to b important to get a realistic view of who you r communicating with if it is at all possible. Distances and financial expenditures play a part in meeting others we r acquainted to on the internet.

You know, words are so powerful - more than most of us realize, I suspect.  They resonate and last - sometimes for years.  Some people let the words fly based on a passing emotion, especially when angry.  Later, when they realize how the power of those words may have impacted the other person, they might apologize sincerely... but the sting is still there.  It lasts.  Do that enough times, and the other person might believe in the power of the sting more than the power of the apology and stop responding.  The origin of the anger and the resentment depends on the rapport of the people.  Could be a clash of personalities.  Could be projections from childhood!  Could be someone is overly sensitive.  Could be someone is not sensitive enough. This is why it's better to assume innocence.  Might have nothing to do with you.  Might have everything to do with you.  Just because we believe we are spiritual doesn't mean we never behave like jerks!  Lol. 

On the other topic, I find that on the web, when one invites a stranger to correspond privately they sometimes feel at liberty to say completely inappropriate things - especially men.  Declarations of romantic love!  Unasked for advice based on not much! Temper tantrums, etc.   For some - not all - there is a sense of instant intimacy that is mostly imagined.   I don't like that.  Getting to know people takes time.  Not saying you personally would do such things, but it's sort of a habit I've developed. I prefer to get to know people out in the open first. I suspect I lived in Victorian times once - lol! Am kind of old fashioned.

The owl is beautiful - like you said, the eyes are very human-like.  Sensitive.  There is something lonely about it.  No, not lonely, raw.  Do you know who painted it?  The colors are washed out.  The focus is the eyes.  I think you nailed it in your description.  I see the same things. 

Don't u think declarations of romantic love are quite unrealistic unless there r mutual feelings?

Well i see u left out one critical factor... i am sure u r aware of it though. That is karma. We continue to play out roles from the past and have learned much from those roles. However lingering karma with others brings us back to face the beauty and difficulties we had with others before.

'Assuming innocence' is one thing but taking the initiative in being kind and friendly can sometimes be a dangerous project with snake pits along the way... as i have mentioned before. U were not sure what i meant about this. What i mean is that many people read u all wrong, project their baggage on u, have warped perceptions and our sometimes quite vindictive to friends/lovers when it does not work out their way.

Sayonara for now.