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« Reply #30 on: Apr 11, 2018 05:39 am »

As you know i dealt with a similar situation. Although i became more understanding with time. We can be grateful that we have developed a level of kindness and do not choose to treat others like they may treat us. Perhaps that is part of the test my friend....to return kindness where we have been mistreated. This marks an evolutionary leap in spirituality. Consequently our environment and friends and lovers will also improve. More and more i see kinder and more evolved types in my life. This is because i chose to ignore the transgressions of others and not be foolish and continue to let them harm me but prepared to give love and kindness no matter what the circumstances. Quite often when people who have loved us give us the silent treatment there are great insecurities in them and they are extremely frustrated with themselves.
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« Reply #31 on: Apr 11, 2018 12:44 pm »

Hi Steve,
I think what you say is true. I just donít see me getting over this so easily and Iíve told her why I am walking away which is all sheís wanted me to do anyways. You can be nice to someone but the way you love them is different and thatís fine too. right now I need to cultivate forgiveness on my own transgressions and while Iíve made great strides to my personal goals I am no where near satisfied or close to achieving the lifestyle and goals I seek.
Peace brother  Smiley thanks for letting me vent and helping me see things from a spiritual perspective
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« Reply #32 on: Apr 12, 2018 12:44 am »

I donít know whatís happened but I feel happy and peaceful  today. Iím not angry with her anymore and feel wonderfully indifferent. I hope this feeling remains and thank you for the blessings Smiley
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« Reply #33 on: Apr 12, 2018 05:52 am »

Perhaps that is part of the test my friend....to return kindness where we have been mistreated.
i may have realized this before but often my ego gets in the way. you know, i think of a love a parent has for their child. a parent watches their child through all phases of life and even if that child is embarrassed by their parents at an early stage in their development, the parent recognizes where their child is for having gone through similar phases but loves them just the same.... i apologize for dragging this out and i think i am on a stronger resolve now. you know i didn't know i'd love this person right away it grew overtime. i romanticized and obsessed. she was never feeling it the way i was even early in the relationship she wanted out. i was blind and refused to acknowledge her own needs. we quickly fell apart and i don't need to count either of our flaws but now just accept things at face value. she wanted out and i first refused then i became angry when it finally happened. i wanted to direct hate to this person but why? she never deserved hate. i can't hate her. i do love her. while she doesn't love me, if i love her and she wants me to leave her alone then i can respect that. it was very difficult and i made quite an ugly mess of things just to get to this point.... but i think about it like this now... there's still a hope... there's nothing glamorous in this for me, no comforting kisses or holding of each other but there's a chance to love this person still. even if she is embarrassed by our past, i don't have to publicize anything. i can keep this person in prayer and still feel love for them... and maybe one day i can be there for her. better and stronger. all i wanted was to be her pillar, her man. it became corrupt for so many reasons. it was my first real relationship. but i won't give up. i will love her still and try to take my ego, what i think i am owed out of this equation. it's just not that type of relationship. as you say i will have to be more observant of my own emotions down the road... but if she ever needed someone strong to be there for her, i hope to be there. to prove all i wanted was to be a part of her life. but for now, i let go... no more negative obsessions. no more grief. no care for who she's with either so as long as she's happy... and if i haven't screwed it up to bad, maybe she can trust to confide in me again one day down the road. maybe we can laugh together again.

friendships are tender and beautiful thing and eventually we'll get to an age where we aren't making any new one's but losing those around us....

peace

so here's to peace and love, renewed connections- comfort and trust... time to let go and wash away
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« Reply #34 on: Apr 13, 2018 11:23 am »

If we are loving-which i know you are-there will always be new encounters with love along the way. As we grow and develop on the spiritual path there will come a time we are bewildered by the many expressions of love thru which God loves us in one incarnation after another as lovers and married partners...mothers fathers and friends. We will meet many of these associations if not in this life then in the afterlife...all to expand our understanding and embrace a larger view of love.
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« Reply #35 on: Apr 14, 2018 05:46 am »

Hi Steve !
Exactly! Smiley

I hope to be a better man not just for my ex but anyone willing to share their heart with me. It isnít always easy when we get caught up in the riddle and take/make things so personal because well- relationships are personal and the ego is easily bruised.

Cheers mate  ! ^_^
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« Reply #36 on: Apr 14, 2018 07:43 am »

Hi Steve !
Exactly! Smiley

I hope to be a better man not just for my ex but anyone willing to share their heart with me. It isnít always easy when we get caught up in the riddle and take/make things so personal because well- relationships are personal and the ego is easily bruised.

Cheers mate  ! ^_^


Yea no ego no pain and more ego more pain. Many times we have to be reminded just how much we still have that we have to get rid of. Most human beings use others for their own ends. But karma will always hunt us down. So i just go ahead and get mad at no one. Ive had some pretty hard knocks with relationships. It just astounds me how people take their hurt out on others. Then their pain only increases. I have had old friends and lovers come back though over the years. If you really pray for someone and give kindness instead of cruelty back you never know what to expect. People remember kindness but if they don't you can bet there will be those to take their place who do. I have so many kind friends Eric. Your one of them.God sent us together to rise above the noise of life. We are only becoming stronger friends because we transcended our differences and recognized that love is the greatest victory of all. If you truly love-- your heart will know you achieved victory by not caving in to defeat when spiritual deprivation is apparent in others. It is the best time to realize your own spiritual strength. Never be defeated by life. Carry that portable happiness with you to face all circumstances. Have a vice grip on God thru all the hell this world can give. Whenever you can-meditate--and you will see the world has less and less affect on you because it is all a crazy drama full of ups and downs.

The roller coaster ride is for kids. Enjoy the inner search and God's presence every moment of your life. Bumper cars are for young souls. Its quite an amusement park here. I was just at the fun house yesterday. I never thought i'd see the picture i saw in the mirror! I look stranger by the day. Guess i was looking in a real strange mirror! Hmmm and i payed for that attraction? Wow what people will do for entertainment! Be careful its quite a labrynth out there. You may have a hard time getting out buying a ticket for some of these attractions.
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