Message #17394

[Jitendra Hy-do-u-no-us?]

Art

i have just started to delve into your account of relationships. I intend on commenting and sharing with u... if u don't mind. One of the things I have learned that came as quite a surprise to me is that u can b very close with someone and they can really turn on u and abandon u if they find another 'flame' for a while. It was literally amazing to me that I could be accused of 'stalking' someone that was separated by such a distance that it was inconceivable i would even b near. Yet in today's world  the word is used quite indiscriminately to include communicating and continuing to b friendly. What i have learned from the situation is how we can b so wrong about other people. Many people disolve into the frame work of their own personal agendas and do not have the capacity to expand their personal lives to include a larger spiritual family. Instead they fall back into a very limited personal ego existence.

i responded to u in this way because I see that among the lasting friends and lovers u have met some rather flaky people in your encounters. Many or most people simply disappear when challenges in relationships arise. This I can accept out of most people who have no real conception of spiritual development but out of people who are openly professing a spiritual path?
It becomes a contradiction in terms.

It has been difficult for me to admit but I have not always chose friends who were true friends. I believe it is important for me to realize that among the many wonderful people who have come in my life there are also a few who were never the right choices and who actually betrayed friendship. It is O.K. if someone can truly apologize and recognize this but many people do not even have remorse only justification and rationalization.

Hope this has put a lite on some of your encounters. It is only one persons observation based on a personal experiences of my own. It was nice of you to share with us Art. I intend on reading your post much more....