The problem I see with your experiment is mainly this: If one of us is in a relationship or start one during this time it is not really fair for a partner. I believe that physical expression of love to another person is often quite beautiful and brings people closer if only for a time. I am very happy about the intimacy I have experienced with those i have loved regardless of their reactions. Sex has many expressions some do not even require the things you have mentioned. Sex can be just a way of expressing your gratitude towards someone else. I commend you for breaking the ice on this conversation Brock. i just do not see sex as a scientific experiment but rather an expression of caring. No doubt there are many other views. Yet it is definitely an interesting topic. This has been shown to be true from the beginning of time as we know it.
Pornography and sexual expression do not interest me. Why? I cannot answer for anyone else but for me there has to be a warmth of feeling and a spiritual commonality otherwise it is all physical. There is so much more to life than the physical. Even in all forms of sexual expression.
For me: When and if some form of masturbation is taking place it is accompanied by warm feelings for someone close to me. I can not answer for others. However for me it is an act of love and caring. But I have begun to see everything in life that way. If i have not answered your thread I apologize. I think we gain more control over sexuality through years of meditation but sometimes the control helps when we do express ourselves this way and in rare moments of intimacy it can be a beautiful expression of oneness with another human being or thoughts of closeness (through physical means) when someone is not physically near.
When every thing we do becomes an expression of love; Sex also fits this description, regardless of how we engage in it; alone or with someone else.
It's no problem for me to break the ice because there is no ice. I am not interested in playing games and bullshitting, and those ice cubes are made out of frozen bullshit.
So yeah, this experiment can be done whether you are in a relationship or not. I can't believe your partner won't understand, and if your relationship can't handle 90 days of abstinence I think you had better get out while you still can. This is a perfect chance to focus even more on the non-physical aspects of your relationship.
Steve, if you don't want to join that's all right. Does anyone else want to try? If not I will do it alone and report back to you.
I have been wanting to do this anyway.
And to answer your question: Lately my habit has been to masturbate about 2-3 times per week, usually all at once. I will usually use some sort of visual aid, mainly women masturbating, because I like to keep things somewhat "clean". But also I will sometimes go in for regular porno, although I prefer the softer and nicer kind. I will try to abstain for most of the week then end up giving in. However, when I can go longer periods I notice an increase in chi or prana.
I have read that even one sexual thought can break the flow of your prana and be a loss.
For those that follow Paramahansa Yogananda, there can be no question: masturbation is weakening and against what he teaches. "Don't let the frogs of weakness kick you around". I can support this if you want quotes.
http://www.anandaclaritymagazine.com/2005/09/yogananda-sex-yoga-meditation/
