LOL...Steve, a simple no would've sufficed...
Really? Most people have to know. Then when they find out they often become angry. It is remarkable i was on another forum and the administrator used to joke about my astrology and told me she did not believe in it. However she was interested in getting a reading. So when i did give a reading i was suddenly too personal in the reading and was removed from the forum. So you see we have a spin-doctor who is trying to keep the story together of 'who I am '. We believe our own press releases. But now she is looking for an astrologer. So you see most spiritual seekers want the truth however when they get it they find they have bit off more then they can chew and instead of taking credit for the fact that is what they did they would place the blame on the other person. Its always easier to blame someone else and to keep the story of our own headlines straight in our own minds by blaming others for what we ourselves hold the responsibility for. i would not be able to comment this way except for the dramatic reaction to events with no explanation. Does everyone have something to learn from the situation? Of course. The problem arises when others take destructive actions. Destroying others records And actually trying to destroy a forum they were at one time happy at but now does not satisfy current desires.
i think parents raising kids will quickly learn a simple no does not work. We have a right to learn and be given explanations especially if we take it upon ourselves to destroy first and then never explain. Once someone has done this their anger is obvious. We really need no other explanations for anger. Because then people will rationalize by such comments as 'oh that was justifiable anger.'
I get the impression that some people think if you are careful about your speech you are being shy, fake, or are hiding something, or being manipulative in some other way. Or that you are fearful and guarded. So what is the right way?
So you asked this question above. i tried to answer it. But you send me mixed messages. One is you want to have answers but then you do not. Not sure what you want Brock. For me i felt the same way about another forum administrator. Its like some people want to know but 'tell me in the way i am willing to listen' if you do not i will simply eliminate you from my life with no explanation. i think the best we can do is to be kind in our speech and behavior with others.